who manages the finances in your home? - TalkNewJersey.net

Steve · 08-01-2008, 02:33 PM

Hey everyone,

just curious as to who manages the money in your household. recently had a baby and my girlfriend isnt going to be going back to work to take care of the baby and help him be a good man.

She says she wants to manage the money and pay all the bills. I was a little scared at first but should i or shouldnt i do that? I can do it and i do make the money now for the house so i want to know what you guys do and think.

I dont mind paying for everything but ive always been use to managing my money. i know what i have to pay and know what i can and cant spend. let me know your 2 cents.

RosaM68 · 08-01-2008, 03:42 PM

As for my two cents; you should still pay for the bills in the house and manage the money. Why should that change just because she chose to be a stay at home mom???

Just don't understand why women or any person should be in charge just because you have a child together. Sorry for the sarcasm, but I was raised to be independent.

***Please don't take me the wrong way, just a little curious on why she wants to take charge all the sudden!?!?

As fro my household we share the expenses. JMO.

Steve · 08-01-2008, 04:16 PM

well she says im not responsible enough with the money , Cause when we use to be 50/50 i would spend more than i had lol but that was before my son and me being the only provider. boy did i spend lol

palito · 08-02-2008, 12:08 AM

U are a misfit, man. better straighten your act, hahahaha

poor Fernanda!
Rosa... u indepentent? Oh well, if u say so.... there are many kinds of independence/dependence. geezzz. and dont take me wrong, ok?

Anyhoo... at my household, I earn the bread (or at least am supposed to do so) and manage the budget. My wife does the rest: SPEND!

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Originally Posted by Steve

well she says im not responsible enough with the money , Cause when we used to be 50/50 i would spend more than i had lol but that was before my son and me being the only provider. boy did i spend lol

Steve · 08-02-2008, 12:14 AM

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Originally Posted by palito

U are a misfit, man. better straighten your act, hahahaha

poor Fernanda!
Rosa... u indepentent? Oh well, if u say so.... there are many kinds of independence/dependence. geezzz. and dont take me wrong, ok?

Anyhoo... at my household, I earn the bread (or at least am supposed to do so) and manage the budget. My wife does the rest: SPEND!

bout time you come in and spill your 2 cents lol

shes spending like crazy as well. she acts like the money just comes naturally. I dont think ill let her manage it but i need some help for my argument as she can get feisty

palito · 08-02-2008, 12:26 AM

Sorry, my mom is very ill and I was taking care of her with the help of my two kids. Sighhh.

Actually, what I said about you being "terminal" was a joke.... Never allow a woman to manage the household budget, especially if she feels she is God's blessing to Shopping Centers.

In these bad times, with unemployment so bad (I said so bad, not so gay... nobody is laughing!), even the feds have allowed the six-month 5.5% UI clause to kick in, meaning people who were drawing UI and exhausted their claim funds, now MAY collect an additional 13 weeks if they still meet all the requirements for UI.

As you are an independent businessman, you need to watch your bottom line like a hawk and make sure you are within limits, including the ever-important household budget. So, as long as you practice a little furgality by yourself, you can tell ur gal to ease off... unless she is using her own credit cards, which you aint responsible for (let her pay for them, hahaha. Like I got my wife to do. Only risk is she might not talk you again for a few months...and, for what I have seen... she has you rolled around her little finger and trussed like a chicken.

Orale, muestrale quien es el jefe (and I dont care if Rosa tries to kill me with her sarcasm.. u my boy!).

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Originally Posted by Steve

bout time you come in and spill your 2 cents lol

shes spending like crazy as well. she acts like the money just comes naturally. I dont think ill let her manage it but i need some help for my argument as she can get feisty

Steve · 08-02-2008, 12:37 AM

will do and im sure shell get mad but hey what can she do lol im the boss lol jk jk

RosaM68 · 08-02-2008, 08:35 AM

No sarcasm here Palito. You are right.

Why should Steve change what he has been doing for years just because she chose not to work. Don't get me wrong , it's good for her to want to stay home and be with her first born. But now a says it takes two incomes to make it.

palito · 08-02-2008, 09:54 AM

Yeah, you Da Boss... when she lets you (am talking about the home front). J/K.
And outside that.... you love to boss everyone, you power hungry maniac mini llama!

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Originally Posted by Steve

will do and im sure shell get mad but hey what can she do lol im the boss lol jk jk

palito · 08-02-2008, 10:08 AM

I am always right, and you know it!

As for "it taking two to tango". Well... my wife has always been a stay at home person and I have always assumed the role of provider. Up to now, it has worked fine. We dont go for that "I am independent from you and can do whatever I want thing".

I actually feel Steve's lady did the right thing by staying at home. The baby needs his parents around constantly at this tender age in order to better develop and bond. Personally, I disklike it intensely when parents dump their kids with other relatives, nurseries, preschools, etc., just because they want to have their own time for professional development, social lives, etc.

You had a kid, no one forced you to have him or her. So show some responsbility and take care of the baby YOURSELF. You want to socialize? Do it in ways you can bring baby along (we always did and when our friends protested, we would them our sons were more important than anything and dont try to make us choose sides. They usually understood and some of them even changed their ways with their kids).

You dont like that? Though Sh.t! Putting your personal interests for fun, friends and other such frivolous stuff has never led to anything good. Family is family, our parents raised us that way and we do great for the most part. So why do we have to be so egoistical and only think "me me me me" instead of thinking FAMILY? Money helps, yes. But the main focus is family. SO BUDGET AND ACT FOR FAMILY NOT FOR MONEY!

Capice?

Off my soapbox!

PS: FLAME ON, MAKE MY DAY.... AT YOUR OWN RISK!!

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Originally Posted by RosaM68

No sarcasm here Palito. You are right.

Why should Steve change what he has been doing for years just because she chose not to work. Don't get me wrong , it's good for her to want to stay home and be with her first born. But now a says it takes two incomes to make it.